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܈   ✶ The New Rules of Marriage to read ⡯ Kindle By Terrence Real ⣞ ܈ ✶ The New Rules of Marriage to read ⡯ Kindle By Terrence Real ⣞ Chapter OneAre You Getting What You Want Outgrowing the Old RulesAre you happy with the relationship youre in today Or are you frustrated, knowing that no matter how hard you try, the open heartedness that first drew you and your partner together seems awfully hard to win back Perhaps youre in a difficult relationship that needs substantial change, or perhaps you are in a good enough relationship that could be made better Maybe youre looking for a new relationship that doesnt repeat the mistakes of the past In any case, if you are reading these words, chances are you feel that something has been missing It may be tempting to avoid acknowledging that feeling, but Id like to ask you to trust your instinct Twenty five years of helping couples change and grow has taught me that if you feel things could be better, youre probably right A lot better, in fact.People may tell you that what youre looking for is unrealistic I dont think so Well meaning friends and family may focus on your need to compromise I dont want you to Your relationship is too important for compromise Your work may be rewarding, your kids great, and your friends wonderful, but in the end, your bond with the person you live out your life withthe one you grow up and grow old withis the single most important connection you will ever have I want you to go after what it is that you wantwith skill and with loveand get it.Both in counseling couples and in workshops Ive lead around the country, I have taught people from all walks of life how to turn bad relationships into good ones, and good relationships into great ones Because great is what youre really after Great is what you deserve Not merely a relationship you can live with, but one that is truly alivepassionately, tenderly, maddeningly filled to the brim with unexpected twists and turns, with comfort and solidity, with the sense of knowing and being known, and loving one another anyway How do you get such a relationship You dont get it, you build it, thoughtfully and skillfully, brick by brick.Do you have the skills to do this Have you been taught the craft of creating and sustaining a truly great relationship If youre like most of us, your upbringingthat curious mixture of what youve picked up about how to be close from society in general and from your family in particularhas not only failed to give you the tools you need, but has actively filled your head with a bunch of unhelpful nonsense Nonsense like Youd better not make him too angry Or, If she really loved me, shed Or, I could be happy if only youd .Like a tennis player whos performed well enough with rotten technique, in order to master relationships you dont just have to learn how to do it first you have to unlearn all your bad habits Think of me as your intimacy coach Together, were going to strip down your usual relationship routines and redo them, from the very basics Will it be comfortable Probably not If it is, it means Im not doing my job Imagine going out on a tennis court with a totally new grip after years of holding your racquet in one familiar way Comfortable No But does the new, proper grip give you a effective stroke Once you get used to it, theres no comparison.Reading this, a part of you may be wondering, Has the game of love really grown so technical that I need an intimacy coach just to have a decent relationship Whatever happened to falling in love and, well just getting along That kind of spontaneity is fineif its working for you Ask yourself Is it If youre like most people, the honest answer is somewhere between a definite no and Not as well as I wish it would If thats the case, dont be embarrassed youre in an awfully big boat The truth is that navigating your relationship by simply doing what comes naturally actually stacks the odds against achieving lasting happiness Roughly half of all marriages fail altogether, and of those marriages left standing, how many are really fulfilling How many truly great relationships do you see around you Everywhere you turn, it seems that people who can be terrific parents, friends, workers, and neighbors fall short in the one arena that matters the most As if that werent sobering enough, consider this The grim picture of relationships Im describing has been relatively stable for the last forty years The emergence of couples therapy in the 1950s has done nothing to change it Self help and psychology havent put a dent in it Multimillion dollar government programs and church initiatives have been helpless in the face of our current intimacy crisis What is going on Twenty first Century LoveTry as they might, most experts arent helping much because they fail to address the fundamental issue Whats robbing your relationship of the closeness and passion you deserve is history or, precisely, your particular moment in history If you are like the millions of men and women who feel dissatisfied, you have been trying to negotiate a twenty first century relationship using twentieth century skills Your expectations of what an intimate relationship isemotional sharing, mutual support, responsibility, vitalitybelong to a new kind of marriage, one very different from your parents or grandparents But your old rule book, and your bag of relationship toolsyour game plan and ways of copingare not nearly as fresh as your vision is.The Big Picture Where Are We Now One of the reasons why men and women are so frustrated and confused with one another is that the nature of marriage itself is undergoing a sea of change.In the beginning of the twentieth century, with the coming of the industrial revolution, men left their farms in droves and moved into the city to work Before urbanization everyone pitched in together in all sorts of ways, but from then on men began working away from their families while women and children stayed home The great roles for men and women of the twentieth century were forged Man the Breadwinner and Woman the Caretaker Both at home and in school, children were raised to have character traits that suited these roles Boys learned to be strong, goal oriented, and competitive girls learned to be caring, emotional, and cooperative For at least fifty years, this arrangement, if not always equally rewarding for both partners, was nevertheless largely stable Through the 1950s and well into the 1960s, divorce was exceptional, and in all but the most extreme cases, if marital unhappiness existed, it was kept discreetly behind closed doors.In the second half of the twentieth century, the sleeping giant of half the population began to wake up Starting in the 1970s and mov ing with accelerating pace, women became the largest addition to the workforce Women gained economic freedom, political power, a new psychology, and a collective drive to support feminine strength and independence The womens movement changed our society forever.Newly empowered, women across America turned to men and began insisting on levels of emotional intimacy that most menraised under the old regimewere not readily able to meet.The reason why things have been so difficult between men and women in the last several decades can be pared down to this In the last generation women have radically changed and men, by and large, have not This is not a criticism of men It is a simple fact.If Woman the Caretaker was compliant and repressed, the new Liberated Woman was armed and angry, leaving many men feeling unappreciated and bewildered What do they want from us men asked Why cant they accept us for who we are On the womens side, finding a good man, a man who got it, seemed to grow and difficult If the ancient Greeks identified with heroic Odysseus setting sail for adventure, we moderns cheer on Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda of Sex and the City, as they quest for a satisfying heterosexual relationship, or as Charlotte once put it, to dream the impossible dream What most of the men I work with dont get is that their relationship job description has changed According to the unspoken rules governing traditional twentieth century marriage if a man was a reliable provider, a steady hand, and didnt drink a lot or beat anyone, he was a good husband A generation ago, if a woman went to her mother and complained of such a spouse that He never takes my feelings seriously, or He puts me down in public, or Hes so shut down I feel like I live with a stranger, what do you imagine she would have been told Stop whining, suck it up, and go homeof course But we have outgrown those rules, and now it is just such quality of relationship issues that break up modern couplesor, perhaps worse, render a once loving union chronically miserable Just as womens roles have radically changed, so, too, have their expectations of long term relationships While many men would be delighted if women retained of their traditional caretaker role, most women need men to be than providers The refrain I hear over and over again from dissatisfied women is I dont feel like I have a real partner A partner who shares in the details of domestic life and in her concerns about the kids An intellectual partner who cares about what she thinks and supports her development And most of all, an emotional partner who shows interest in and appreciation for her feelings and who has a few feelings of his own Advance praise for The New Rules of MarriageTerry Real helps overturn old fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere This is a wonderful, joyful, and highly useful book.Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Crazy BusyFalling in love is easy, staying in love is another matter Couples yearning for closeness are trulyin uncharted territory until now, that is This book offers amazing new insights about men and women and what it takes to make relationships work in our ever changing culture.Michele Weiner Davis, MSW, author of Divorce BustingIf youre tired of the same old dance, get ready to learn a few new stepsreal stepsthe ones that will make a difference in your life and the lives of those you love.Cheryl Richardson, author of Life MakeoversTerrence Real offers a brilliant, winning strategy for achieving the full tilt, authentic, exhilarating connection both women and men crave Reals revolutionary program is sure to lead them to itwith the dignity, fairness, and humor that characterizes his work.Dalma Heyn, author of Drama KingsAn amazing guide to developing powerful relational skills It is served up with great wit and a keen sense of humora great read.Pia Mellody, author of Facing Love Addiction and The Intimacy Factor Groundbreaking, insightful, funny, this book brings readers the inside scoop Sharing the deep and simple truths, it offers us practical wisdom everybody can use to make love work.Bell Hooks, author of All 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    • The New Rules of Marriage
    • 2.3
    • 154
    • Format Kindle
    • 321 pages
    • Terrence Real
    • Anglais
    • 04 November 2016

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