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ᥠ reading ᖼ The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition benefits ᦟ Ebook Author Alex Comfort ᧋ ᥠ reading ᖼ The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition benefits ᦟ Ebook Author Alex Comfort ᧋ On Gourmet Lovemaking All of us, barring any physical limitations, are able to dance and sing after a fashion This, if you think about it, summarizes the justification for learning to make love Love, in the same way as singing, is something to be taken spontaneously On the other hand, the difference between Pavlova and the Palais de Danse, or opera and barbershop singing, is much less than the difference between sex as our recent ancestors came to accept it and sex as it can be At least we recognize this now so that instead of worrying if sex is sinful, most people now worry whether they are getting satisfaction one can worry about anything, given the determination And there are now enough books about the basics we are largely past the point of people worrying about the normality, possibility, and variety of sexual experience This book is slightly different, in that there are now enough people who have those basics and want depth of understanding, solid ideas, and inspiration To draw a parallel, chef grade cooking doesnt happen naturally it starts at the point where people know how to prepare and enjoy food, are curious about it and willing to take trouble preparing it, read recipe hints, and find they are helped by one or two techniques Its hard to make mayonnaise by trial and error, for instance Gourmet sex, as we define it, is the same the extra one can get from comparing notes, using some imagination, trying way out or new experiences, when one already is making satisfying love and wants to go on from there This book will likely attract four sorts of readers First, there are those who dont fancy it, find it disturbing, and would rather stay the way they are these should put it down, accept our apologies, and stay the way they are Second, there are those who are with the idea, but dont like our choice of techniques remember, its a menu, not a rulebook Third, most people will use our notes as a personal one couple notebook from which they might get ideas In this respect we have tried to stay wide open One of the original aims of this book was to cure the notion, born of non discussion, that common sex needs are odd or weird the whole joy of sex withlove is that there are no rules, so long as you enjoy, and the choice is practically unlimited We have, however, left out long discussion of very specialized sexual preferences people who like these know already what they want to try The final group of readers are the hardy experimentalists, bent on trying absolutely everything They too will do best to read this exactly like a cookbook except that sex is safer in this respect, between lovers, in that you cant get obese or atherosclerotic on it, or give yourself ulcers The worst you can get, given sensible safety precautions, is sore, anxious, or disappointed However, one needs a steady basic diet of quiet, loving, night and morning intercourse to stand this experimentation on, simply because, contrary to popular ideas, the regular sex a couple has, the higher the deliberately contrived peaks just as the you cook routinely, the better and the reliable banquets you can stage One specific group of readers deserves special note If you are disabled in any way, dont stop reading A physical disability is not an obstacle to fulfilling sex In counseling disabled people, one repeatedly finds that the real disability isnt a mechanical problem but a mistaken idea that there is only one right or enjoyable way to have sex The best approach is probably to go through the book with your partner, marking off the things you can do Then pick something appealing that you think you cant quite do, and see if there is a strategy you can develop together Talking to other couples where one partner has a problem similar to yours is another resource In sum, the people we are addressing are the adventurous and uninhibited lovers who want to find the limits of their ability to enjoy sex That means we take some things for granted having intercourse naked and spending time over it being able and willing to make it last, up to a whole afternoon on occasion having privacy not being scared of things like genital kisses not being obsessed with one sexual trick to the exclusion of all others and, of course, loving each other As the title implies, this book is about love as well as sex you dont get high quality sex on any other basis either you love each other before you come to want it, or, if you happen to get it, you love each other because of it, or both Just as you cant cook without heat, you cant make love without feedback By feedback, we mean the right mixture of stop and go, tough and tender, exertion and affection This comes by empathy and long mutual knowledge Anyone who expects to get this in a first attempt with a stranger is an optimist, or a neurotic if they do, its what used to be called love at first sight, and isnt expendable skill, or variety, is no substitute Also, one cant teach tenderness The starting point of all lovemaking is close bodily contact love has been defined as the harmony of two souls, and the contact of two epiderms At the same time, we might as well plan our menu so that we learn to use the rest of our equipment That includes our feelings of identity, forcefulness, and so on, and all of our fantasy needs Luckily, sex behavior in humans is enormously elastic it has had to be, or we wouldnt be here , and also nicely geared to help us express most of the needs that society or our upbringing have corked up Elaboration in sex is something we need rather specially and it has the advantage that if we really make it work, it makes us , not less, receptive to each other as people This is the answer to anyone who thinks that conscious effort to increase our sex range is mechanical or a substitute for real human relationship we may start that way, but its an excellent entry to learning that we are people and relating to each other as such There may be other places we can learn to express all of ourselves, and do it mutually, but there arent many Those are the assumptions on which this book is based Granted this, there are two modes of sex the duet and the solo and a good concert alternates between the two The duet is a cooperative effort aiming at simultaneous orgasm, or at least one orgasm each, and complete, untechnically planned release This, in fact, needs skill, and can be built up from calculated loveplay until doing the right thing for both of you becomes fully automatic This is the basic sexual meal The solo, by contrast, is when one partner is the player and the other the instrument The aim of the player is to produce results on the others pleasure experience as extensive, unexpected, and generally wild as his or her skill allows to blow them out of themselves The player doesnt lose control, though he or she can get wildly excited by what is happening to the other The instrument does lose control in fact, with a responsive instrument and a skillful performer, this is the concerto situation and if it ends in an uncontrollable ensemble, so much the better All the elements of music and dance are involved rhythm, mounting tension, tantalization, even forcefulness Im like the executioner, said the lady in the Persian poem, but where he inflicts intolerable pain I will only make you die of pleasure There is indeed an element of infliction in the solo mode, which is why some lovers dislike it and others overdo it, but no major lovemaking is complete without some solo passages The antique idea of the woman as passive and the man as performer used to ensure that he would show off playing solos on her, and early marriage manuals perpetuated this idea Today, she is herself the soloist par excellence, whether in getting him excited to start with, or in controlling him and showing off all her skills Solo recitals are not, of course, necessarily separate from intercourse Apart from leading into it, there are many coital solos for the woman astride, for example while mutual masturbation or genital kisses can be fully fledged duets Solo response can be electrifyingly extreme in the quietest people Skillfully handled by someone who doesnt stop for yells of murder but does know when to stop, a woman can get orgasm after orgasm, and a man can be kept hanging just short of climax to the limit of human endurance The solo given orgasm, whether from her or from him, is unique neither bigger nor smaller in either sex than a full duet but different sharper but not so round And most people who have experienced both like to alternate them Trying to say how they differ is a little like describing wine Differ they do, however, and much depends on cultivating and alternating them Top level enjoyment doesnt have to be varied, it just often is In fact, being stuck rigidly with one sex technique usually means anxiety In this book we have not, for example, focused on coital postures to the exclusion of all else The common positions are now familiar to most people from writing and pictures if not from trial the extreme ones, as a rule, should be spontaneous, but few of them have marked advantages This explains the apparent emphasis in this book on extras the sauces and pickles That said, individuals who, through a knot in their psyche, are obliged to live on sauce and pickle only are unfortunate in missing the most sustaining part of the meal exclusive obsessions in sex are very like living exclusively on horseradish sauce through allergy to beef fear of horseradish sauce, however, as indigestible, unnecessary, and immature is another hang up, namely puritanism One of the things still missing from the essence of sexual freedom is the unashamed ability to use sex as play In the past, ideas of maturity were nearly as much to blame as old style moralisms about what is normal or perverse We are all immature, and have anxieties and aggressions Coital play, like dreaming, may be a programmed way of dealing acceptably with these, just as children express their fears and aggressions in games Adults are unfortunately afraid of playing games, dressing up, and acting scenes It makes them self conscious something horrid might get out In this regard, bed is the place to play all the games you have ever wanted to play if adults could become less self conscious about such immature needs, we should have fewer deeply anxious people If we were able to transmit the sense of play that is essential to a full, enterprising, and healthily immature view of sex between committed people, we would be performing a mitzvah playfulness is a part of love that could be a major contribution to human happiness But still the main dish is loving, un self conscious sexual pleasure of all kinds long, frequent, varied, ending with both parties satisfied, but not so full they cant face another light course, and another meal in a few hours The pice de rsistance is good old face to face matrimonial, the finishing off position, with mutual orgasm, and starting with a full day or night of ordinary tenderness Other ways of making love are special in various ways, and the changes of timbre are infinitely varied complicated ones are for special occasions, or special uses like holding off an over quick male orgasm, or are things that, like pepper steak, are stunning once a year but not staples There are, after all, only two rules in good sex, apart from the obvious one of not doing things that are silly, antisocial, or dangerous One is Dont do anything you dont really enjoy, and the other is Find out your partners needs and dont balk at them if you can help it In other words, a good giving and taking relationship depends on a compromise so does going to a show if you both want the same thing, fine if not, take turns and dont let one partner always 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    • The Joy of Sex: The Ultimate Revised Edition
    • 3.4
    • 278
    • ReliĆ©
    • 288 pages
    • 0307587789
    • Alex Comfort
    • Anglais
    • 09 October 2016

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